Last January I started a 30 trial where the goal was to focus on feeling good/better. This wasn’t my first experiment along these lines and once again I got very interesting results…
Yes, definitely. I feel better than I felt in the beginning of the year (not that I felt “bad” back then). Now I would just love to tell you that I did nothing but concentrate on feeling better and now I feel better (that way I could prove to you that it’s possible to be happy by focusing on being happy on the inside). However, it’s not like that.
The fact is, and that’s the reason why I waited a few weeks with this review, that my LIFE has become a lot “better” during the trial period.
- I focused on feeling better
- then suddenly my life became better
- then I got all confused because of those changes and lost my focus on feeling better
(but still felt better because my life had improved).
(Did I confuse you now, as well?)
The interesting thing is that this pattern has played out multiple times in my life now. I concentrate on feeling good, being happy, being in a state of unconditional love (…) and after a short while my life gets so good that I get confused and scared from the new changes.
This is not a bad thing but I know that I rather want to learn how to deal with all those (positive) changes than putting my life on hold because I’m scared. So next time I will have to prepare for that!
I already mentioned in the announcement post that I assumed this would also become an intention manifestation experiment. And as you see, my assumption became true.
- interesting projects
- a very inexpensive trip to Berlin
- fun, interesting, new people
- a romantic relationship
What really threw me off was the relationship thing. In the last few months I’ve been getting hit on a lot but never from people I was interested in/attracted to. Attracting someone I would find attractive has always been really difficult for me. Now it seems things are turning around in this area of my life.
Needless to say that all of those manifestations made me feel really good.
There are many approaches to feeling better. One technique is to look for better feeling thoughts (also known as “Pivoting” by Abrahm-Hicks). Although I had some success with this technique in the past, this time I wasn’t able to use it so easily. I think this is because my lifestyle has changed a lot in the last few years. I lived pretty “non-physical” (ignoring my physical surroundings) a few years ago, so focusing on a thinking exercise wasn’t a big deal.
Now I’m more caught up in physical stuff. I have appointments, I have a social life, I have a job. That means I’m often in situations where I can not just switch off my thinking and focus on better feeling thoughts. I still have to think about my physical surroundings.
Practically this means that when I’m at my job for example, I think about job relevant things. I can’t just interrupt that and do a thinking exercise. So, this was something I realized during this trial.
Fortunately there are a lot of other techniques for feeling good/better. One method that I’ve been using successfully is getting into a state of self love or unconditional love.
The easiest way to get into that state for me is to cast love energy (I just imagine it) at myself and my surroundings. This works for me in more physical situations as well. It’s much for me easier to stay in this state/attitude than to constantly tweak my thoughts.
I’m going to write more about unconditional love in another article because this really deserves more space. Anyway, there are a lot more (spiritual) techniques for feeling better. A method I’ve written about before is the release technique. This technique has worked for me especially well in situations where I was overwhelmed with negativity. So this can be a very powerful tool.
In the last few weeks I definitely noticed that my mental focus shifted more towards feeling better and this is a great result (because that was something I had missed a little the months before)!
For the next few weeks I will probably be mentally busy with an intention manifestation program by Andrea Hess (yay!), so I will not put that much exclusive focus on feeling good/better.
However, I slowly understand that focusing on feeling good always seems to work out great for me. And even small shifts can obviously bring big results.